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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.
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Ro3 № 32

Ninety-seven percent of the time, there is no practical magickal solution. Three percent of the time, well, three is a magick number and that is when I use magick.
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Ro3 № 31

Choose your own words and actions despite the threat of punishment. Accept responsibility for your choices. Trust that others will make their choices without your coercion.
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Gibbs Rule #4

The best way to keep a secret? Keep it to yourself. Second best? Tell one other person - if you must. There is no third best.

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Third best, second best, best

Give them the third best to go on with; the second best comes too late, the best never comes.
— Robert Watson-Watt. See also Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 28

There are three types of history. There's the Official History™, there's the stories that people tell, and there's what really happened.
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Ro3 № 27

A living faith draws from three sources. There's what others have done before you. There's who you are and what you've done. And finally there's the link you make to the Divine. The dynamic tension shapes your faith.
— NeoWayland, Faith Triad, see also Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 24

I honor truth, liberty, and the rule of law in that order.
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Ro3 № 23

Always do what you promised. Try to deliver more than you promised. Make it better today. Keep polishing.
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Ro3 № 22

The honor is in giving truth when needed, helping when you can, and leaving the World a little better than how you found it.
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Ro3 № 21

Keep what works. Fix what’s broke. Ditch the rest.
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NeoNote — Nature and the World are not cruel.

The problem with making morality a part of religion is that some priests forget that they are measured by the lives around them. They think that their calling places them beyond "man's law.
— NeoWayland
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Ro3 № 20

Start cunnilingus with three to the left, two to the right, one to the left, three to the right, two to the left, and then one to the right.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 19

Give her at least two orgasms for every one of mine.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 18

Pay attention to other people. Find out what's important to them. Make it important to you.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three, see also Are you paying attention?
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Ro3 № 17

It’s not a real party unless it lasts three days.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 16

Initiate — Celebrate — Operate
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 15

Don’t hold someone responsible unless they were present, of age, and participating. Remember the Practical Grudge Limit.
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Ro3 № 14

At it's simplest, Shiva is not Loki who is not Brighid. Do not treat each of them the same. Do not expect the same from each of them. Respect them on their terms and make that respect a part of your life.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three, see also Really real pagan
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Ro3 № 13

Books aren't destinations, they're signposts. Like it or not, you still make the journey yourself. You can always go further than the book can carry you.
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Ro3 № 12

What you think you know is not what you need to know. Where you are is not where you need to be. Who you believe you are is not who you were meant to be.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three, see also Systematically
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Ro3 № 11

Know what you can do. Know what you're willing to do. Know the price you're willing to pay.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 10

Words matter. Actions matter more. Intentions don’t.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three, see also Would you know?
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Ro3 № 9

Honor expects three warnings before you act.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 8

Test it thrice.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 7

To ease your pain and shame, share it separately with three people you trust.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 6

If you find information on the internet, verify it with three offline, reputable, and independent sources and experiment BEFORE you depend on it.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 5

If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three, see also Collecting pelts, sex rules
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Ro3 № 4

Let people discover truth before you speak. Make sure the truth is necessary before you speak. Judge if the listener is worthy of truth before you speak.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Ro3 № 3

Say only one thing for every three things they say.
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Ro3 № 2

Ask questions. Question the answers. Question your questions.
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Ro3 № 1

Start by listening. Before you say anything, listen again. Just to make sure you understand, listen some more.
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Practical rules of three

I keep collecting them and they keep proving useful.

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Another study guide

Lexicon entries worth studying.

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Faith worthy of freedom

The only worthy faiths and beliefs are those freely chosen

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NeoNote — Responding to another Bookworm rant

For something with no moral relativism, there's an awful lot or relative morality going on.

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Platinum Rule

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst and meanwhile, do everything you can to make things better.
— Jim O'Neil
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NeoNotes — Defending my faith (the long one)

I try to give Christians the benefit of the doubt, mainly because I expect the same. Some make it harder than others. Live and let live works mostly.

For space reasons, this entry has it's own page.

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Take care of each other

Humans have been taking care of each other for a very very long time. How many old stories have gods wondering the Earth disguised looking for hospitality and charity? Our society is built on the idea of honor and fair play. Parity is a keystone. The Christians called it the Golden Rule, but it existed in dozens of successful cultures. It may be the most important idea of Western civilization and the best thing that sets us apart.
— NeoWayland
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NeoNotes — Perception and symbols

I wonder. If a symbol can be "tainted" no matter what it was used for previously, what does it take to "purify" the symbol?

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NeoNotes — Somebody finally said the C word

For all of the evidence of Christian bigotry, there's tolerance and pluralism right there beside it.

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Best practices

If it's Tuesday, it must be technopagan.

There was a great piece that I linked at Pagan Vigil in my Tuesday headline roundup, Why Simple Beats Complex. Ben Carlson is addressing the investment world, but I think it may be universal. Regular readers may recognize the theme from Zed Shaw's The Master, The Expert, The Programmer. Both these pieces are worth your time.

Shortly after reading Shaw's essay, I examined my writing. I was making it complex, I was flourishing what I knew and expecting people to pat me on the head and say, "Good job." Stripping out the nonessentials was hard and time consuming. It once took me nine months to get a single sentence exactly right. But there it was, simple, basic, and no one could disagree. But people could dismiss it as trite. I had to learn that just because others didn't see the possibilities didn't mean I had to explain it. Four Powers of the Magus all over again, to keep silent.

Carlson makes two important points. Complexity is about tactics; simplicity is about systems. Simple is harder.

Successful people usually stick to basic rules. It's because those rules usually work. And if the rules don't work, people who understand the rules usually understand the World. That gives a leg up in choosing what to try next.

Take one of my favorites. It's the one I try to build my life around. Leave the World a little better than when you found it. I call it a secret of life for good reason. This rule doesn't say do not litter. It's implied. This rule doesn't say clean up the kitchen every morning. This rule doesn't say tend your garden

Let's look at three other rules I use.

GOLDEN RULE - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

SILVER RULE - Do for yourself at least as much as you do for others.

IRON RULE - Don't do for others what they can do for themselves.

That Iron rule applies in my magick. When someone comes to me for help, I judge if help is necessary, needed, and deserved. I don't just rely on my own judgement, but there have been only a handful of times when I've been "overruled." I'm not in this to save souls, I'm in this to leave the World a little better than how I found it. That means sometimes I say "No."

It's not easy. People in need don't want to hear it and it makes pain worse.

Right now one of the things I'm doing is the Timetable page on this site. I'm planning on redoing the lexicon using the same techniques. It's modular, built up from tested parts added one at a time and tested again as I go along. Most people will never think about the construction of the page, for them it will just work. Just like this site.

I try to strip my magick and my rituals down to what's needed and build from there.

Complexity can work, but adding complexity means making it more unstable. If I am building to last, I want to know it will last.

In my home.

In my words.

In my magick.

Simple, well tested ideas that work well together without constant tweaking. Doing more with less. The mark of a master.

Sometimes I actually pull it off.

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NeoNotes — Help

I think it goes beyond religion.

I think it's the keystone to Western Civilization. ReligiousTolerance.org calls it the Ethic of Reciprocity. Christians call it the Golden Rule. My favorite version comes from the movies.

"Be excellent to each other! And party on Dudes!"

Philosophically, the EoR assumes that there are other people and they are just as important as you are. If you want to be treated well, you have to treat others well.

I call it parity. Some call it fairness. It's all the same thing. Help if you can because you may want help later.
NeoNotes are the selected comments that I made on other boards, in email, or in response to articles where I could not respond directly.

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NeoNotes — Which god?

Our nation in particular calls back to the classical Greeks and the Roman Republic.

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Signs

We pagans have become the worst that we saw in the People of the Book.

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Labeling

I would no more solicit your opinion and approval about that than I would about the color of the trashcan by my clothes dryer.

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Wisdom and the Three Percent

I answer my email indirectly

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Of gods and men
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I don't bow unless I respect

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Golden, Silver, and Iron Rules

Worth mentioning with some of the latest posts

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Packing away the memory

Sometimes passion is obsession

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A narrow slice of life, but now and again pondering American neopaganism, modern adult pagans & the World.

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