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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

One of my two unbreakable sex rules

Right now I have six sex rules. The first two are carved-in-stone unbreakable. Here's Number One, newly updated.

  1.  Consenting adults only. 
    Emphasis on the C-O-N-S-E-N-T-I-N-G.
    Emphasis on the A-D-U-L-T-S.
    Anything else is rape and should be treated as such. No means no.
    • Your desire does not control another's choice. For me, that means The Lady Always Chooses.
    • Obviously that also means no touching another without permission. Every human is their own person, that includes their body. You own yourself, mind, soul, and body. Nobody gets to grope you unless you want it. If you don't want that, tell them clearly enough so there can be no misunderstanding.
    • Most seduction takes more time than the sex. Done right, seducing is fun and more rewarding too.
    • If someone relies on force and threats for something whose triggers are hard-wired into our very biology, that doesn't say much about their character. Or their ability to pleasure their partners and themselves.
    •  "Don't fuck with kids."  Let the kids grow up and work it out for themselves, just like they do with sports, what clothes to wear, what and when to eat, reading a good book, and using the toilet. Being a kid means learning to deal with life. Kids don't need weird adults complicating sex.
      1. It's not discussed in polite American society, but children are sexual beings. Yes, even the prepubescents. Just because those feelings exist does not mean adults should cultivate those feelings in kids.
      2. American culture sexualizes children and has for decades. There are eight year old beauty pageant contestants wearing more makeup than a twenty-two year old who is club hopping.
      3. The extended childhood thing in the U.S. is a post-WWII innovation. Well into the 1960s, some rural locations had marriages where the bride and groom were under sixteen. Hang around farm animals long enough and you'll learn plenty about sex.
      4. I'm willing to accept the age of consent as a working compromise even though I know a child has been exposed to sexuality pretty much since the day they were born. You can't be human and avoid it. We're wired for it, we long for a simple touch when we don't have it.

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“Freud, Jung, Luke Skywalker, and the Psychology of Myth: Crash Course World Mythology #40”


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I added a cautionary box

I've added a cautionary box with links to my sex from the lexicon page.

Although I feel sex and combining sex with religion can be positive, I can't deny abuse by certain pagans. Most of the links in the box are not mine. I have cited those articles in my lexicon.

Here is the current version of the cautionary box.



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Saturday - November 17, 2018

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Journal - Friday, 16Nov2018

Thinking by blogging

There are just all sorts of thirteens in my blogs. And there are about to be more.

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That's what I do.

Evil spelled backwards is live. That's what I do.
— NeoWayland, October - updated
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Revived - November 16, 2018

These blog entries have been reformatted and entered into the current directories. Redirect pages have been placed in the old locations.

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Added to the lexicon


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Ro3 № 15

Don’t hold someone responsible unless they were present, of age, and participating. Remember the Practical Grudge Limit.
— NeoWayland, Rules of Three
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Friday - November 16, 2018

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❝We Are as Gods and Might as Well Get Good at It❞

We Are as Gods and Might as Well Get Good at It
Whole Earth Catalog statement of purpose, 1968
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❝Paganism is optimistic…❞

Paganism is that view of life which finds the highest goal of human existence in the healthy and harmonious and joyous development of existing human faculties. Very different is the Christian ideal. Paganism is optimistic with regard to unaided human nature, whereas Christianity is the religion of the broken heart.
— John Gresham Machen
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❝Where do you learn how to act?❞

Where do you learn how to act? Not at church. America is a lot more like pagan Rome than we think. We still sacrifice to objects to gain our social goals.
— Dave Hickey
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Core of human dignity

That sacred space of conscience where you can exercise your rights in terms of religious freedom and deeply-held, reasonable beliefs is the core of human dignity. In fact, that's the basis for civilization itself. And when you lose that fundamental principle... you have no basis on which to build.
— Jeff Fortenberry
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Diversity

Ultimately, America's answer to the intolerant man is diversity, the very diversity which our heritage of religious freedom has inspired.
— Robert Kennedy
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❝Adopt the pace of nature…❞

Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
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❝I only went out for a walk…❞

I only went out for a walk and finally concluded to stay out till sundown, for going out, I found, was really going in.
— John Muir
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Home

This planet is our home. Our life and hers are interdependent.
— Doreen Valiente
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Paths to the Innermost

There are two Paths to the Innermost: the Way of the Mystic, which is the way of devotion and meditation, a solitary and subjective path; and the way of the occultist, which is the way of the intellect, of concentration, and of trained will; upon this path the co-operation of fellow workers is required, firstly for the exchange of knowledge, and secondly because ritual magic plays an important part in this work, and for this the assistance of several is needed in most of the greater operations. The mystic derives his knowledge through the direct communion of his higher self with the Higher Powers; to him the wisdom of the occultist is foolishness, for his mind does not work in that way; but, on the other hand, to a more intellectual and extrovert type, the method of the mystic is impossible until long training has enabled him to transcend the planes of form. We must therefore recognize these two distinct types among those who seek the Way of Initiation, and remember that there is a path for each.
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Discovering odd scraps

Science is always discovering odd scraps of magical wisdom and making a tremendous fuss about its cleverness.
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Genitals

The simple fact is that genitals are no more sexual than any other part of the body--until we use them for sex.
Is Nudity Inherently Immoral? from Family Skinnydippers
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Obsessive modesty

And so the sign of the Fall becomes modesty. Take note of this. The descendants of Adam and Eve will be distinguished throughout history from virtually all other peoples by their obsessive modesty taboos, wherein they will feel ashamed of being naked. It follows that those who feel no shame in being naked are, by definition, not carriers of this spiritual disease of original sin!
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Ro3 № 14

At it's simplest, Shiva is not Loki who is not Brighid. Do not treat each of them the same. Do not expect the same from each of them. Respect them on their terms and make that respect a part of your life.
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Thursday - November 15, 2018

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❝When animus and anima meet…❞

When animus and anima meet, the animus draws his sword of power and the anima ejects her poison of illusion and seduction. The outcome need not always be negative, since the two are equally likely to fall in love (a special instance of love at first sight).
— Carl Jung
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Duality and non-duality

Non-duality is a great idea. Getting certain monotheists to see it's virtue is amazingly difficult. Anybody who can pull that off has my respect.

Getting certain polytheists to see monotheists as anything other than a Terrible Evil That Must Occasionally Be Endured is also amazingly difficult.

Sometimes it's way too easy to become what has hurt and threatened us. Even if we have to wound and bind ourselves to do it.
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The flip side of placebo

“Pain can be a self-fulfilling prophecy”

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Technopagan retreat

Thinking by blogging

So I am going to talk about the retreat I'd like to build if money were not an object.

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Note to my sensitive readers

Before you complain about the nude pictures…

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Sometimes the morning is too early

Grumpy

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Looks like a shining temple

Ireland

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Built by Nature

The pictures don't do it justice.

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Ro3 № 13

Books aren't destinations, they're signposts. Like it or not, you still make the journey yourself. You can always go further than the book can carry you.
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Wednesday - November 14, 2018

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Placebo

“What if the Placebo Effect Isn’t a Trick?”

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Ro3 № 12

What you think you know is not what you need to know. Where you are is not where you need to be. Who you believe you are is not who you were meant to be.
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Tuesday - Novemember 13, 2018

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Skinny dipping

But there was a time when skinny dipping was not only common, but encouraged.

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Pray

Technically not nude, but close.

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