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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

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sæternesdæg      See Saturday


Any of several holidays, usually four or eight in number, in Wicca and related Neopagan religious traditions.
Sabbats follow a solar cycle. The Lesser Sabbats fall on the equinoxes and solstices or quarter days. The Greater Sabbats fall on the cross-quarter days and are the gateways between seasons and thus the gateways between worlds.

I use the Moon cycles to honor the magick, and the solar and fire festivals to honor the gods.

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sacred fire

A consecrated fire used ceremonially or in religious worship.

Perhaps the best known example is the eternal flame like at JFK’s gravesite.

Jewish tradition uses a sanctuary lamp or chancel lamp. This has been adopted by many religions. Katherine Kurtz used my favorite label, the Presence Lamp, in her Deryni novels. Many faiths hold that a sacred flame can be lit from the previous one, the purpose of the sanctuary lamp is to prolong a sacred flame.

In some traditions, a sacred fire may only be created only as it's needed. All other flame (and electrical) nearby should be extinguished. A sacred fire should be created from darkness or at least in low light. A sacred fire should be created by friction.

A weaker version of the sacred fire uses the unburnt fuel from a previous one. Thus the tradition to save part of the Yule log for the next year's Yule fire.

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  1. any of certain persons of exceptional holiness of life, formally recognized as such by the Christian Church, especially by canonization.
  2. a person of great holiness, virtue, or benevolence.
  3. a founder, sponsor, or patron, as of a movement or organization.
A saint brings benelovent change into the world and inspires others to make a positive difference.

Every single person who I have met and would call saint isn't living their faith, they ARE their faith but without the costumes.

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Saint Clement's Day       23November - See Firing of the Anvil

Saint John's Eve     See Litha, summer solstice

Saint Stephen's Day      26December

Samhain     either the end of October or around 06November

Traditional neopagan sabbat. Cross quarter day, Greater Sabbat, High Holiday, & fire festival. Samhain marks the midpoint between the autumnal equinox and the winter solstice and the beginning of winter. Last of three harvest festivals, the "blood harvest," Samhain marks the end of harvest season. Traditionally when the herds were culled for the winter. Dark weird to Beltaine. Festival of the dead. Celtic tradition holds that it's the end of autumn and the end of old year when the gates swing open for the new year.
As October turns to November, thousands of Witches, Wiccans, Druids, and other Pagans across America, Canada, Europe, and elsewhere observe the sacred time of Samhain. Samhain is a festival of the Dead. Meaning "Summer's End" and pronounced saah-win or saa-ween, Samhain is a celebration of the end of the harvest and the start of the coldest half of the year. For many practitioners, myself included, Samhain also is the beginning of the spiritual new year.

Originating in ancient Europe as a Celtic Fire festival, Samhain is now celebrated worldwide. The timing of contemporary Samhain celebrations varies according to spiritual tradition and geography. Many of us celebrate Samhain over the course of several days and nights, and these extended observances usually include a series of solo rites as well as ceremonies, feasts, and gatherings with family, friends, and spiritual community. In the northern hemisphere, many Pagans celebrate Samhain from sundown on October 31 through November 1. Others hold Samhain celebrations on the nearest weekend or on the Full or New Moon closest to this time. Some Pagans observe Samhain a bit later, or near November 6, to coincide more closely with the astronomical midpoint between Fall Equinox and Winter Solstice. Most Pagans in the southern hemisphere time their Samhain observances to coincide with the middle of their Autumn in late April and early May, rather than at the traditional European time of the holiday.

…in ancient Celtic religion, one of the most important and sinister calendar festivals of the year. At Samhain, held on November 1, the world of the gods was believed to be made visible to humankind, and the gods played many tricks on their mortal worshippers; it was a time fraught with danger, charged with fear, and full of supernatural episodes. Sacrifices and propitiations of every kind were thought to be vital, for without them the Celts believed they could not prevail over the perils of the season or counteract the activities of the deities. Samhain was an important precursor to Halloween.

As millions of children and adults participate in the fun of Halloween on the night of October 31st, few will be aware of its ancient Celtic roots in the Samhain (Samain) festival. In Celtic Ireland about 2,000 years ago, Samhain was the division of the year between the lighter half (summer) and the darker half (winter). At Samhain the division between this world and the otherworld was at its thinnest, allowing spirits to pass through.

The family's ancestors were honoured and invited home whilst harmful spirits were warded off. People wore costumes and masks to disguise themselves as harmful spirits and thus avoid harm. Bonfires and food played a large part in the festivities. The bones of slaughtered livestock were cast into a communal fire, household fires were extinguished and started again from the bonfire. Food was prepared for the living and the dead, food for the ancestors who were in no position it eat it, was ritually shared with the less well off.

Christianity incorporated the honouring of the dead into the Christian calendar with All Saints (All Hallows) on November 1st, followed by All Souls on November 2nd. The wearing of costumes and masks to ward off harmful spirits survived as Halloween customs. The Irish emigrated to America in great numbers during the 19th century especially around the time of famine in Ireland during the 1840's. The Irish carried their Halloween traditions to America, where today it is one of the major holidays of the year. Through time other traditions have blended into Halloween, for example the American harvest time tradition of carving pumpkins.

Samhuinn, from October 31st to November 2nd, was a time of no-time. Celtic society, like all early societies, was highly structured and organised - everyone knew their place. But to allow that order to be psychologically comfortable, the Celts knew that there had to be a time when order and structure were abolished - when chaos could reign. And Samhuinn was such a time. Time was abolished for the three days of this festival, and people did crazy things - men dressed as women and women as men. Farmers' gates were unhinged and left in ditches, peoples' horses were moved to different fields, and children would knock on neighbours' doors for food and treats in a way that we still find today, in a watered-down way, in the custom of trick-or-treating on Hallowe'en.

But behind this apparent lunacy, lay a deeper meaning. The Druids knew that these three days had a special quality about them. The veil between this world and the World of the Ancestors was drawn aside on these nights, and for those who were prepared, journeys could be made in safety to the 'other side'. The Druid rites, therefore, were concerned with making contact with the spirits of the departed, who were seen as sources of guidance and inspiration rather than as sources of dread. The dark moon, the time when no moon can be seen in the sky, was the phase of the moon which ruled this time, because it represents a time in which our mortal sight needs to be obscured in order for us to see into the other worlds.

The dead are honoured and feasted, not as the dead, but as the living spirits of loved ones and of guardians who hold the root-wisdom of the tribe. With the coming of Christianity, this festival was turned into All Hallows [commonly referred to as Hallowe'en on October 31st], All Saints [November 1st] and All Souls [November 2nd]. Here we can see most clearly the way in which Christianity built on the pagan foundations it found rooted in these isles. Not only does the purpose of the festival match with the earlier one, but even the unusual length of the festival is the same.

See also All Hallows, All Hallows Eve, Feast of Apples, Feast of the Dead, Hallows, Halloween, November Eve, Oie Houney, fire festival, Samhain All Hallows Eve / Halloween, Summer's End, Wintergate, Wintergate, Wintergate, Winter Nights

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sanguine       air

The personality type of Sanguine is described primarily as being enthusiastic, active, and social. Sanguines tend to be more extroverted and enjoy being part of a crowd; they find that being social, outgoing, and charismatic is easy to accomplish. Individuals with this personality have a hard time doing nothing and engage in more risk seeking behaviour.

  1. cheerfully optimistic, hopeful, or confident:
    a sanguine disposition; sanguine expectations.
  2. reddish; ruddy:
    a sanguine complexion.
  3. (in old physiology) having blood as the predominating humor and consequently being ruddy-faced, cheerful, etc.
  4. bloody; sanguinary.
  5. blood-red; red.
  6. Heraldry. a reddish-purple tincture.

People with sanguine personality type tend to be lively, optimistic, buoyant, and carefree. They love adventure and have a high risk tolerance. Typically, Sanguine people are very poor at tolerating boredom and will seek variety and entertainment. Needless to say, this trait may sometimes negatively affect their romantic relationships. Because this temperament is prone to pleasure-seeking behaviors, many people with sanguine personality are likely to struggle with addictions. Their constant cravings may lead to overeating and weight problems.

These people are very creative and may become great artists. In addition, they are fantastic entertainers and will naturally do well if they choose careers in entertainment industry.

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sarsen       sarcen

any of numerous large sandstone blocks or fragments found in south-central England, probably remnants of eroded Tertiary beds.

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saterday      See Saturday



  1. a diagram, plan, or scheme.
  2. an underlying organizational pattern or structure; conceptual framework:
    A schema provides the basis by which someone relates to the events he or she experiences.
  3. (in Kantian epistemology) a concept, similar to a universal but limited to phenomenal knowledge, by which an object of knowledge or an idea of pure reason may be apprehended.

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In the fictional Dresden Files, Jim Butcher calls the offspring of a supernatuaral creature and a human a scion. I've never heard the word used that way, but stranger things have happened.
  1. a detached living portion of a plant (such as a bud or shoot) joined to a stock in grafting and usually supplying solely aerial parts to a graft
    1. descendant, child; especially : a descendant of a wealthy, aristocratic, or influential family
    2. heir scion of a railroad empire

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A subtle form of trolling involving "bad-faith" questions. You disingenuously frame your conversation as a sincere request to be enlightened, placing the burden of educating you entirely on the other party. If your bait is successful, the other party may engage, painstakingly laying out their logic and evidence in the false hope of helping someone learn. In fact you are attempting to harass or waste the time of the other party, and have no intention of truly entertaining their point of view. Instead, you react to each piece of information by misinterpreting it or requesting further clarification, ad nauseum. The name "sea-lioning" comes from a Wondermark comic strip.

Some social justice warrior types insist that the Socratic method is a form of sealioning, especially if they are unprepared and don't know the answers. Of course it isn't.
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Seasonal Affective Disorder

Depression that occurs seasonally in the winter or cold weather. Far too common.

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second law of ecology     “Everything must go somewhere.”

There is no “waste” in nature, and there is no “away” to which things can be thrown. Everything, such as wood smoke, nuclear waste, carbon emissions, etc., must go somewhere.

The second law of ecology, everything must go somewhere, restates a basic law of thermodynamics: in nature there is no final waste, matter and energy are preserved, and the waste produced in one ecological process is recycled in another. For instance, a downed tree or log in an old-growth forest is a source of life for numerous species and an essential part of the ecosystem. Likewise, animals excrete carbon dioxide to the air and organic compounds to the soil, which help to sustain plants upon which animals will feed.

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semi-shaman     (depreciated)

Some of my practices and results are similar to traditional shamanism, but my “totems” were different and my cultural references were wrong. I was always careful to make the distinction. Now I just do it and don’t bother to explain.

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sepulchre     sepulcher

  1. a tomb, grave, or burial place.
  2. Also called Easter sepulcher. Ecclesiastical.
    1. a cavity in a mensa for containing relics of martyrs.
    2. a structure or a recess in some old churches in which the Eucharist was deposited with due ceremonies on Good Friday and taken out at Easter in commemoration of Christ's entombment and Resurrection.
  3. to place in a sepulcher; bury

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sex      Sharing pleasure through sensation.

Copulation. Coitus. Strictly speaking, thrusting a penis or other piece of anatomy into a vagina, anus, mouth or body curve/crease for mutual pleasure often resulting in orgasm. Intercouse in all of it's human variations. An activity I enjoy very much. I practice sex. I study sex. I talk about sex when I can. I play. I experiment.

I've decided to do what I can to separate sex from politics.

I share sex because experiencing it alone is less than half the fun.

Morality in sexual relations, when it is free from superstition, consists essentially in respect for the other person, and unwillingness to use that person solely as a means of personal gratification, without regard to his or her desires.
— Bertrand Russell
If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better.

I discuss the practical and ethical aspects of sex and sexuality, but this is not a porn or erotica site. You will find nudes, but you won't find sex photos. There is some art showing sex and orgasms in a ritual or mythical context.

I enjoy sex with friends if they are willing. My most important sex rule is The Lady Always Chooses. You see, it's the seduction that appeals to me most. Why rely on force when friendship is more challenging and more rewarding?

I pride myself on my ability playing the nerves of my sexual partners. Giving her pleasure is a bigger turn-on than my own climax. I learned a long time ago that it's worth the trouble to make sure she's got at least two climaxes for every one of mine. It keeps her smiling too.

Once you get past the petting and snuggling and stroking and oral manipulation, that's fucking or casual sex. Fucking means letting the animal part of you out. Deep sex is when you connect on multiple emotional levels beyond the immediate sensation. Fucking scratches the itch. Deep sex gets rid of the itch and gives you a whole new perspective. There is a difference.

I’m a sensualist. I’m wired for sex and sensation. When I see a pretty girl, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s a woman I respect, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s an intelligent woman, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s an intelligent woman with character who I disagree with, I’m horny and I want to fuck her now! Yes, I’m that sex obsessed. No, I don't think that is unusual for men.

Civilized men know life is more than sex, food, and sleep. We don't need to fuck everything with a hole. There's nothing wrong with that desire, it's just better served by focusing on tommorow instead of today. We're measured by the lives we touch.

I'm one of those "nekkid pagans who dig the sex" and my attitudes are considerably different than traditional mainstream America. There's strong evidence that sex is more about pleasure and bonding than producing children. We know that skin to skin contact releases endorphins. We know that grooming and hair brushing does too. We know sharing orgasms makes people feel closer.

"When you're first becoming intimate, you're releasing lots of dopamine and oxytocin. That's creating that link between the neural systems that are processing your facial cues, your voice and the reward system" of a partner's brain, said Larry Young, a professor of psychiatry at Emory University in Atlanta. He studies the role of oxytocin in social bonding.

As time goes on, and couples become less intimate, Young noted that linkage can decay. But activities that release oxytocin, such as really looking into another person's eyes, holding hands, kissing and having sex may help restore the connection.

"To me, it suggests that it may be a way to help prevent the decay that can occur that leads couples to separate," he said.

Hurlemann agreed: "I think this is the only reason that we do hug and touch each other all the time. I think this is the mechanism that keeps oxytocin levels high in relationships."
Nudity is not sex. Nudity is not love. Nudity does not invite sex.

Sex is exploding hormones. Love is commitment. The two should not be confused.

Unless it's with me, who you have sex with, how you have sex, and how many times you have sex is frankly none of my business. Likewise, unless it is sex with me, I'm not responsible for the consequences.

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sex - ritual      - sex magick

Formal, structured symbolic coitus used in a religious or magickal rite. Mine is a fertility religion after all.

My faith recognizes male and female Principles (and Principals too) while honoring sexuality and fertility. There are variations of course, but the union of male and female is the root. That also means that for me, sex and sexual behavior are sacred. Not because it's sex, but because celebrating life around us and within us reveals our shared Divinity. Sex is one way we can enjoy both ourselves and others. It's a gift from the gods. I seek the Divine in every woman I meet. Sometimes I find it, sometimes I don't. Sex can be a sacrament, but not usually.

Many Wiccans and witches believe that all things contain a primal energy or vital life force that moves within and among them. This energy is most easily experienced through sexual activity, especially when it is raised with spiritual intent. Through their sexual intimacy, practitioners can participate in a primal moment of creation: a moment when two divine forces or beings—imagined as a many-gendered God/dess making love with her mirror reflection; or a lunar Goddess and a solar God; or a genderless yin and yang, nothing and something—communed together in an erotic union whose vibrations continue to animate the universe.

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sex rules

I have six main sex rules. The first two are carved-in-stone unbreakable and easily solve 97% of sex problems in America today.

  1.  Consenting adults only. 
    Emphasis on the C-O-N-S-E-N-T-I-N-G.
    Emphasis on the A-D-U-L-T-S.
    Anything else is rape and should be treated as such. No means no.
    • Your desire does not control another's choice. For me, that means The Lady Always Chooses.
    • Obviously that also means no touching another without permission. Every human is their own person, that includes their body. You own yourself, mind, soul, and body. Nobody gets to grope you unless you want it. If you don't want that, tell them clearly enough so there can be no misunderstanding.
    • Most seduction takes more time than the sex. Done right, seducing is fun and more rewarding too.
    • If someone relies on force and threats for something whose triggers are hard-wired into our very biology, that doesn't say much about their character. Or their ability to pleasure their partners and themselves.
    •  "Don't fuck with kids."  Let the kids grow up and work it out for themselves, just like they do with sports, what clothes to wear, what and when to eat, reading a good book, and using the toilet. Being a kid means learning to deal with life. Kids don't need weird adults complicating sex.
      1. It's not discussed in polite American society, but children are sexual beings. Yes, even the prepubescents. Just because those feelings exist does not mean adults should cultivate those feelings in kids.
      2. American culture sexualizes children and has for decades. There are eight year old beauty pageant contestants wearing more makeup than a twenty-two year old who is club hopping.
      3. The extended childhood thing in the U.S. is a post-WWII innovation. Well into the 1960s, some rural locations had marriages where the bride and groom were under sixteen. Hang around farm animals long enough and you'll learn plenty about sex.
      4. I'm willing to accept the age of consent as a working compromise even though I know a child has been exposed to sexuality pretty much since the day they were born. You can't be human and avoid it. We're wired for it, we long for a simple touch when we don't have it.

  2.  If you promised to be someone else’s “one and only,” you’re off limits.  Honor demands nothing less.

  3. Regret does not equal rape.

  4. Acknowledge but not celebrate. It works for sexuality, religion, and politics. Some believe that their moral choices should compel my behavior. Obviously I disagree. I'm under no obligation to fuck you so you can feel validated.

  5. I don't tell you who to fuck, and I expect that you won't tell others who they can't fuck as long as it's unpledged consenting adults.

  6. Incest is not a good idea.

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sexual beings      Your desire does not control another's choice.

“The greatest thing you'll ever learn

Is just to love and be loved in return”

You must learn to give, from sufficiency, not only take, from neediness.
- Lois McMaster Bujold, A Civil Campaign
Some people go through their entire lives never learning that simple fact. We're judged by how we touch the lives of others, physically, mentally and spiritually. Touch another without consent and against their will and that is abuse no matter how it makes you feel. Obligating someone with a "gift" is still manipulation.

While humans are sexual beings, we’re not defined solely by sex. Looks can be important, sure, but that’s not all there is. What you see on the outside is just the outer layer. People aren't limted by genitalia or body shape. The brain is still the vital sex organ.

Sometimes it’s what I learn about a woman that arouses me. Anyone who can hold their own in a discussion with me gets my attention. If they’re female, that means more attention than I gave at first glance.

In Western culture, beauty and sex appeal are cheap and plentiful. But someone who knows how to think! Someone who knows and cherishes honor! Someone who’s willing to stand up for what they believe is right even if it’s unpopular! Those rare qualities show just how worthy someone really is. That’s when it’s not about the perfect body. That’s when it’s about talking and sharing after coitus. That’s when it’s about the smells and sounds and the way flesh feels in the dark. That’s when you want to spend time with someone you trust and admire. That's a sure way to deep sex.

Sex is more than exchanging fluids, friction, DNA, viruses and bacteria. Sex is about life. Sex can make your life better. Or it can drain your passion to nearly nothing.

Sex is not love although there is certainly a hormonal charge. I think it's one of the great failings of our culture to insist that love and sex are aspects of the same thing.

Sex is easy, it's practically wired into the biology. Relationships are hard. Anonymous sex without an emotional connection is mutual masturbation and probably won't be a lasting relationship. I know from experience that one night stands are fairly childish and not emotionally healthy. Given a chance, people outgrow that. I did. Millions of others do too.

That differentiates casual sex from deep sex. The body heat and skin-to-skin contact enhance the bond, but the root of the bond isn’t sex. Do you trust the other person? Do you trust them to tell you truth? Do you trust them not to hurt you or yours? Do you trust them not to steal? Do you trust them enough to share your tomorrow? Can they trust you? Shared trust is what can make it work. What else is worth talking about?

No, sex does not equal romantic love. No, nudity does not equal sex. Most importantly,  without consent sex is abuse. 

You are your own person, no one owns you except you. Sex is something you share with someone you care for and trust. You shouldn't share with people you don't trust or don't like.

Here’s the secret that all those how-to sex books won’t tell you. If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better. The more you know about them and the more they know about you, the better the sex will be. If they push your mind and spirit while you push theirs, you’ll never be bored.

All that without the exotic positions, the extra toys, the role play, and the power play.

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sexual initiation (pagan)

Ritual sex combined with granting power and knowlege.

No, I don't know exactly what's involved. I wouldn't tell you if I did. The last thing this World needs is another creep hitting on someone for Secret Sex Rites because of something they read on the internet.

Some will tell you that there are no pagan sexual initiations. That's not exactly true, but I know of only a handful. Every one was a single line, which means that the magick could only be passed once from teacher to student, who in turn could only pass it on only once. No moonlit orgies there.

If a group requires sex, it's a safe bet that someone is collecting pelts and you can find something safer AND BETTER elsewhere.

If you are uncomfortable with sex and ritual combined, just don't do it.

 I know of no ethical pagan practice that involves non-consensual sex.  Even in the ones that involve bondage and discipline and power exchange, there's always consent. And if you don't believe me, go read your Gardner and Crowley again.

Sex and magick can be mind-blowing, but do yourself a favor and keep the sex safe. You'll be glad you did.

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sexuality     somaticorientationgender role

Sexuality is a thing of the mind, not of the genitalia.
— Maggie McNeill, Rope of Sand
We humans have made this very complicated, especially in Western Civilizations.

“More and more I've noticed that there is a difference between someone who calls themselves X and someone who calls themselves a person who happens to be X.

When you let your politics define your personhood, there's not much room left for your personhood outside of your politics. Without your personhood, you can lose empathy and humanity.”
Somatic or body sexuality consits of the genitalia and other sexual characteristics that your body naturally manifests. This is the least important part of a person's sexuality and the hardest to change.

Somatic sexuality is not easily modified. Modified somatic sexuality is not easily reversed.
At present, there is no easy way to change somatic sexuality. Such attempts may create deeper problems, especially before sexual maturity.

Rapid-onset gender dysphoria describes a phenomenon where the development of gender dysphoria is observed to begin suddenly during or after puberty in an adolescent or young adult who would not have met criteria for gender dysphoria in childhood. ROGD appears to represent an entity that is distinct in etiology from the gender dysphoria observed in individuals who have previously been described as transgender. It is plausible that ROGD represents an ego-syntonic maladaptive coping mechanism for some AYAs and that peer group and online influences may contribute to its development. It is unknown whether the gender dysphoria of rapid-onset gender dysphoria is temporary or likely to be long-term. The elevated number of friends per friendship group who became transgender-identified, the pattern of cluster outbreaks of transgender-identification in these friendship groups, the substantial percentage of friendship groups where the majority of the members became transgender-identified, and the peer group dynamics observed all serve to support the plausibility of social and peer contagion for ROGD. The worsening of mental well-being and parent-child relationships and behaviors that isolate teens from their parents, families, non-transgender friends and mainstream sources of information are particularly concerning. More research is needed to better understand rapid-onset gender dysphoria, its implications, and scope.
Although not trendy to say, surgical and hormonal modification with our current technology will complicate the situation and probably won't solve existing problems.

I can't see somatic sex modification for pre-teens and teenagers as anything other than child abuse.
Sexual orientation defines which somatic sex attracts you. Like most social definitions, it's human created and can change. Depending on circumstances and the people around you, it is natural for sexual orientation to shift. It's also natural for sexual orientation to stay stable throughout a lifetime.

I've found that words like straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and pansexual tend to be excuses. You're not exclusively the label, and the word can limit what you allow yourself to be. Remember you are not label, you are a person who at this moment feels label. That can and probably will change.

Shorn of politics and power games, the only label is sexual. As long as it is unpledged, consenting adults, what else matters?

Remember that orientation is a label and that your orientation doesn't govern anyone else. Sex should be about choice and consent.

I get the impression that sexuality, for many younger people, is now just about sexuality, and not that much about identity. Is this the beginning of the end, then, of identity politics?

The gay rights movement was built on recognizing and celebrating differences based on sexual orientation. But as sexual orientation becomes more like a space of fluid and changing experiences, rather than a series of boxes marked "gay," "straight" or "bisexual," sexual orientation loses its power as an organizing force. Can you have a Gay Pride march if everyone is merely "open-minded"?
The third major aspect of sexuality is the gender role. This is the persona that one presents to the world. Some cultures have very strict limits on the gender role, especially if it differs from somatic sexuality.

Traditionally some cultures have used unusual gender roles to mark religious or magickal practices.

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I prefer operating from the fringe. No great recognition, but no glow in the dark targets either.

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Shenn da Boaldyn     See Beltaine

Shrove Tuesday - Fat Tuesday - Mardi Gras
     See Selected Christian Observances

Silver Rule

Do for yourself at least as much as you do for others.

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  1. the making of profit out of sacred things.
  2. the sin of buying or selling ecclesiastical preferments, benefices, etc.

Simony, buying or selling of something spiritual or closely connected with the spiritual. More widely, it is any contract of this kind forbidden by divine or ecclesiastical law. The name is taken from Simon Magus (Acts 8:18), who endeavoured to buy from the Apostles the power of conferring the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

Simony, in the form of buying holy orders, or church offices, was virtually unknown in the first three centuries of the Christian church, but it became familiar when the church had positions of wealth and influence to bestow. The first legislation on the point was the second canon of the Council of Chalcedon (451). From that time prohibitions and penalties were reiterated against buying or selling promotions to the episcopate, priesthood, and diaconate. Later, the offense of simony was extended to include all traffic in benefices and all pecuniary transactions on masses (apart from the authorized offering), blessed oils, and other consecrated objects.

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A common practice among some bloggers and websites where most of the text in an entry came uncredited from someone else. Sadly, I’ve done this more than I should have. I do try to limit what I quote and give credit whenever I can.

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skyclad      Nudity does not necessarily or even mostly equal sex.

To be naked, specifically during spiritual ritual (pagan/wiccan).

Some believe that clothing interferes with the natural energies of magick, and that it brings you closer to the Earth.
When it comes to magick, yep, I usually shuck the clothes and do the "nekkid pagan guy" thing. Nudity doesn't usually excite me, but magick does, with all the physical symptoms. Yes, I get erect and my nipples get harder. Despite my body's reactions, I very seldom use a sexual release in my magick.

I'm not the only pagan who prefers to work nude. It's probably because most pagan paths are experienced rather than revealed, and sensuality is a major part of experience. That's why some pagans use ritual garb chosen as much for it's texture as it's color.

Nudity is not necessary for magick. It's very much a personal choice. It can be distracting and in today's society and can introduce sexual complications (even though it shouldn't). That's one reason why I wear clothes when I work with others or when someone is likely to see me.
In some Pagan traditions, including but not limited to Wicca, rituals may be held in the nude, also referred to as skyclad, or “clad only by the sky.” Being skyclad is not sexual in nature. Of those who practice skyclad, many say that it helps bring them closer to the Divine, because there is literally nothing between them and the Gods. In other traditions, a person may be skyclad only during certain ceremonies, such as an initiation rite.

There are a number of reasons for going skyclad, but there is not a hard and fast rule that it must be done. Just as many Pagans work robed as skyclad. Why would someone choose to work in the nude? Let's take a look at some possible reasons. For some, it's because there is a sense of freedom and power that comes from being without the confines of clothing.

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social justice warrior

A pejorative term for an individual who repeatedly and vehemently engages in arguments on social justice on the Internet, often in a shallow or not well-thought-out way, for the purpose of raising their own personal reputation. A social justice warrior, or SJW, does not necessarily strongly believe all that they say, or even care about the groups they are fighting on behalf of. They typically repeat points from whoever is the most popular blogger or commenter of the moment, hoping that they will "get SJ points" and become popular in return. They are very sure to adopt stances that are "correct" in their social circle

A person who uses the fight for civil rights as an excuse to be rude, condescending, and sometimes violent for the purpose of relieving their frustrations or validating their sense of unwarranted moral superiority. The behaviors of Social justice warriors usually have a negative impact on the civil rights movement, turning away potential allies and fueling the resurgence of bigoted groups that scoop up people who have been burned or turned off by social justice warriors.

What is a Social Justice Warrior?

The term "Social Justice Warrior" (SJW) came about as a pejorative term to refer to a person who berates other internet users over matters of political correctness, but has since evolved to refer to a specific movement within tech and gaming culture that is based around professional victimhood, intimidation, and the proliferation of falsehoods.
It is not about justice, it is about politics. Politics strives to control the behavior of others.

Social justice warriors base their arguments on exploiting guilt politics, collective identity and intersectionality. Expect language games and kafkatrapping. Don't expect individual responsiblity or merit.

Results are measured by the gains made by a minority against a majority and emotional peaks.

SJW types try controlling the language and the agenda by claiming a higher moral authority. Remember that the Practical Grudge Limit can be very useful when escaping the collective guilt.

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Socratic method

the use of questions, as employed by Socrates, to develop a latent idea, as in the mind of a pupil, or to elicit admissions, as from an opponent, tending to establish a proposition.

Socrates engaged in questioning of his students in an unending search for truth. He sought to get to the foundations of his students' and colleagues' views by asking continual questions until a contradiction was exposed, thus proving the fallacy of the initial assumption. This became known as the Socratic Method, and may be Socrates' most enduring contribution to philosophy.

My preferred debate tactic. This IS NOT sealioning.
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One who chooses to take the Journey and experience faith, actively Manifesting that faith, focused on their own path. Their path is experience. It's about the Journey, that movement along the way that can't be predicted. It's juicy, it's messy, it's mind blowing and it’s supremely passionate.

It's ecstatic in a way that passivity never will approach. The Journey is SUPPOSED to drag you out of your comfort zone and your expectations and your perceptions and your understandings.

You can't walk between the worlds if you have both feet and nine fingers firmly anchored in one.

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solar eclipse     See eclipse

solar festival     dates of solstices & equinoxes

An equinox or solstice, a quarter day that marks the peak, valley or balance of solar power. Despite popular belief, a solar festival is the midpoint of the season, not the beginning. Most neopagan tradtions mark solar festivals as Lesser Sabbats.

Another name for the winter solstice is Midwinter (also here), another name for the summer solstice is Midsummer (also here).

On my WebTree path, a solar festival begins at sunrise of the the day before the actual solar event and lasts until sunrise the day after. That makes it the traditional three days.

At the Solstices, the Sun is revered at the point of its apparent death at midwinter - and of its maximum power at the noon of the year when the days are longest. At the Equinoxes, day and night are balanced. At the Spring Equinox, the power of the sun is on the increase, and we celebrate the time of sowing and of preparation for the gifts of Summer. At the Autumnal Equinox, although day and night are of equal duration, the power of the sun is on the wane, and we give thanks for the gifts of the harvest and prepare for the darkness of Winter.

These four festivals are astronomical observances, and we can be sure our ancestors marked them with ritual because many of the stone circles are oriented to their points of sunrise or sunset. By the time the circles were built, our ancestors had become a pastoral people, and times of sowing and reaping were vital to them.

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solitary practitioner

Solitary practitioners are individuals preferring to work in private rather than within the confines of a group or coven. Some practice and study a particular single tradition, while others, like the Eclectic Wiccan pick, choose and blend different traditions. Wicca with its diverse number of traditions works well with this sort of practice, and Solitary working can be as fulfilling as working in a group setting. Because of its solitary nature and without clear guidance, it does involve a great deal of self-study and determination to achieve results and without a Mentor, it is easy to go astray as no one is around to correct any mistakes or deviations. However, many Solitaries follow the way of Nature and let themselves enjoy the ride within Mother Nature Herself, knowing that Nature cannot be wrong. Solitary Wiccans often undertake a ritual of self-initiation to dedicate themselves to the Goddess and God.

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solstice   See archaeoastronomy.com for dates this year

  1. Astronomy.
    1. either of the two times a year when the sun is at its greatest distance from the celestial equator: about June 21, when the sun reaches its northernmost point on the celestial sphere, or about December 22, when it reaches its southernmost point.Compare summer solstice, winter solstice.
    2. either of the two points in the ecliptic farthest from the equator.
  2. a furthest or culminating point; a turning point.

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somatic sexuality     See sexuality - somatic

sonenday      See Sunday

Sparkpoint       - around the beginning of February

WebTree fire festival & cross quarter day. Sparkpoint marks the beginning of spring and the return of the light, staring at sunset the day before the midpoint between the winter solstice and the spring equinox and ending at sunset on the day after (traditional three days). Sparkpoint marks the beginning of the WebTree year.

I'm winterborn in the first part of January, so this has always been special. I was premature, so this might even have been my birthday.

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Similar to a thoughtform, but with an independent existence after creation. Usually tied to a physical object and not autonomous.

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spring equinox      See equinox
     The MIDDLE of spring, not the beginning.

Springtide     See Imbolc

THE standard argument

“The people who pay attention to laws are not the ones you should be worried about.”

It applies to every single mala prohibita law you can name. The people who will obey the law will obey. And those taking advantage will simply break the law with no real consequences unless they are caught and convicted. The only things that increase are taxes and government power.

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Starwell     winter solstice

WebTree solar festival & quarter day marking the winter solstice and the middle of winter. A time of blood, contrasts and promises that celebrates the height of winter's power and the Wheel turning towards spring and eventually summer. Starwell lasts from sunrise on the day before the solstice to sunrise the day after (traditional three days).

The Nightlord reaches his greatest strength and pays with the Wound while his weird the Daylord is reborn.

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the Still

Not one of my prouder inventions. I stop speaking to someone, usually for months at a time. Goal is supposed to be a year and a day, but I’ve never made it that far. Sometimes it’s the best way out of a bad situation.

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stock     See kin

storge     or storgh

Familial love, common empathy, the love of parents for children or children for parents. To a lessor extent, other relatives as well, although philos plays it's part there too. One of the Greek words for love.

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the Story      Stories are important, but they are signposts.

The Story is told while the Journey is lived.

The only two purposes of the story are to honor the memory of those who have gone before and to teach you to recognize where the path begins for your own Journey. The rituals are not the faith. The map is not the territory. The words are not the thing. Story People are the followers of a revealed faith, “the answers could be in the very next book.”

Story People seek to live the fable.

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the Story vs. the Journey      See the Journey vs. the Story

sub rosa

‘under the rose’; confidential.

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summer solstice      See solstice

Summer's End     See Samhain


WebTree fire festival & cross quarter day. Summergate marks the beginning of summer staring at sunset the day before the midpoint between the vernal equinox and the summer solstice and ending at sunset on the day after (traditional three days).

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Sun-blessed salt     See blessed salt

Suncrest      summer solstice

WebTree solar festival & quarter day marking the summer solstice and the middle of summer. A time of blood, contrasts and promises that celebrates the height of summer's power and the Wheel turning towards autumn and eventually winter. Suncrest lasts from sunrise on the day before the solstice to sunrise the day after (traditional three days).

The Daylord reaches his greatest strength and pays with the Wound while his weird the Nightlord is reborn.

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sunnandæg      See Sunday

sunnenday      See Sunday

sunnon-dagaz      See Sunday

superior conjunction

the instant when a planet passes on the opposite side of the Sun from Earth (Mercury or Venus)

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A supermoon is the coincidence of a full moon or a new moon with the closest approach the Moon makes to the Earth on its elliptical orbit, resulting in the largest apparent size of the lunar disk as seen from Earth. The technical name is the perigee-syzygy of the Earth-Moon-Sun system. The term "supermoon" is not astronomical, but originated in modern astrology. The association of the Moon with both oceanic and crustal tides has led to claims that the supermoon phenomenon may be associated with increased risk of events such as earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, but the evidence of such a link is widely held to be unconvincing.

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The Supine temperament is the quintessential model of a servant leader. They always place their own needs secondary to the good of the body. It is presented as a balanced mix between Melancholic and Sanguine temperaments, while the person may be introvert and extrovert as well.

Motivated to be useful in a larger sense, Supines are driven to serve a higher cause than their own self-interest. This can lead them to appear subservient and even indeferent when it comes to their own needs, but in the interest of their chosen causes, they can be fiercely assertive. At their best, they’re caring, gentle, dependable and loyal; at their worst they can be insecure, weak-willed, and indecisive.

  1. lying on the back, face or front upward.
  2. inactive, passive, or inert, especially from indolence or indifference.
  3. (of the hand) having the palm upward.

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surveillance capitalism

Monetizing data gathered through surveillance, often without the willing permission of the followed.

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swords     See air, Tarot


  1. Logic. an argument the conclusion of which is supported by two premises, of which one (major premise) contains the term (major term) that is the predicate of the conclusion, and the other (minor premise) contains the term (minor term) that is the subject of the conclusion; common to both premises is a term (middle term) that is excluded from the conclusion. A typical form is “All A is C; all B is A; therefore all B is C.”
  2. deductive reasoning.
  3. an extremely subtle, sophisticated, or deceptive argument.

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