Negative whiskers
I noticed it more because I was a “professional” and beards were uncommon. My beard was conservative in those days. It was the Amish style, sometimes called the Abe Lincoln. This was in the 80s & 90s, before that style became gamer hip.
My beard is a vanity I allow myself. Over the years I experimented. I tried a mustache a few times but it itched. I settled for little strips of hair to the level between my lips.
Since I’m working at home these days, I don’t keep it trimmed. I shave under my nose and my chin, I’m letting the rest grow out. I’m letting the old beard grow longer.
Apparently it feels amazing on a lady’s inner thighs. That’s major incentive right there and I’m looking for the exact right length.
Through all this, the most distinctive thing is was isn’t there. How many American men do you know that have full beards but no mustache?
It’s negative space. It’s the silent shout. I imply a mustache by not having one.
It’s a subtle touch that sets me apart. And yes, it’s a matter of vanity.
I’m shaggier than I was. Outside I still tie up my hair, but I don’t regularly use product. My beard though, that can’t be tied up. It’s just there.
Except where it isn’t.