Mastering theatrics


A reader wants to know why I use theatrics

Speaking of email…

A reader pointed out (and quite rightfully) that I had put a strong emphasis on theatrics not so long ago. But let's take a closer look at what I wrote.

Now that is an extreme example, but there is not a professional who doesn't put on their own masks. Dressing for success. We judge people by how they look, how they act, how they make us feel.

So when people come to me for help, they don't always know why and certainly don't necessarily know how. My job at that point is to help them see the solution for themselves. Most of it is how I present myself to them and how I help them reframe the problem.

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It's theatrics. Pure stagecraft leaning on a sympathetic ear and a dollop of common sense. It's not easy, but I make it look good. A bit of flair along with what they needed.

I've news for you. That's a good bartender too. Or a good doctor. Not to mention a good mechanic. And a good plumber. Most of the job is to reassure THEM so they will let you do the dirty bit.

Because the dirty bit, the messy thing, that's the part they don't want to face. That's why you are there. And they want the Expert to deal with it.

Look at what I said earlier about theatrics.

Yes, it's manipulative. Yes, it's showmanship. Yes, it's basic psychology. But usually by the time I get involved, people don't know what else to do. They're not looking for a "weirdo," they're looking for help. What gives people faith in what I do (and makes my job much easier) is my ability to shift from one frame of reference to another and bring them along.

I couldn't do that if I wore ritual robes all the time and a five inch pentagram. I doubt if I could do it if I had visible tattoos. My old ritual scars used to cause a lot of problem with that, that's one reason I got into the habit of wearing t-shirts under my polo shirts. That and my nipples are a little on the dark side and can show through one layer of pale fabrics.

I guess what I am saying is that my Pagan identity doesn't depend on shocking people out of their reality. And when they do need to face their own edges, simple moves in context will take them further and with trust than any ritual garb worn as a costume.

Now I don't claim to be a Master, but I've long since qualified as Expert.

In some things anyway.

When it comes to practicing magick, I think that these days I'm going for the understanding.

Just in case you're interested here's another source. Read The Steve Martin Method: A Master Comedian's Advice for Becoming Famous. Emphasis in orginal.

"Be so good they can't ignore you."

Let this resonate for a moment. I think it captures something profound.

Sure, it’s scary. But, even more so, I find it liberating. It simplifies the quest. Forget all the frustration, the tricks, and the worry. Just focus on becoming good. Really damn good. Outstanding. Unlike anyone who has come before you.

That sounds like Mastery to me. And it puts the overused (in today's world) word "masterwork" in a different context.

Be sure to read the rest of the piece to see how to put the method into operation. The rest of the site is pretty good, and it's not just about study hacks.

Posted: Thu - December 31, 2009 at 08:40 AM
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