The Greatest Thing


Musings on women, love, and respect

So yesterday afternoon wasn't exactly my own after all. My mother had a dentist appointment and she ended up taking pain killers. So she didn't feel like she should drive, and she had some errands. Then she had some sort of reaction to the medication and I wasn't going to leave her alone until that passed. We ended up watching a DVD.

Anyway, though all this I was thinking about possible lyrics to change Billy Joel's "She's Always A Woman" (see the comments on this post) into something about Nature and more Pagan-related. And got me to thinking about the nature of ladies and womanhood and the women I have known. Then this morning I read some LiveJournal posts by happydog, lupa (this one is filtered and with good reason), and moonvoice (also filtered for a good reason).

As a Red Blooded American Male™, I can tell you that the standard of female beauty is not nearly as restricted as Hollywood would have you believe. These are not the things that our popular culture celebrates, but they are what the culture builds on. I'm not talking about motherhood and who is best in the sack and who looks good draped off of someone's arm.

I'd admit it. I'm single and I enjoy the occasional bit of casual sex. I'll fuck almost any willing female if the circumstances are right. But usually the circumstances aren't right. Unless you're heavily into the party scene, most ladies aren't that interested in the casual sex thing. Especially as the guy gets older. At that point the "perfect body" become a lot less important than the things that live inside that body.

Let's look at the lyrics of that Billy Joel song, which is one of the things that sparked this train of thought anyway.

She can kill with a smile
She can wound with her eyes
She can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child,
But she's always a woman to me

She can lead you to love
She can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth
But she'll never believe you
And she'll take what you give her, as long as it's free
Yeah, she steals like a thief
But she's always a woman to me

This song is not about a healthy, well adjusted personality. On either side.

So here's some things that I have learned over the years. Make of it what you will.

The lady always chooses.

There is only one thing more enticing than a woman being sexy on her own terms.
That's a woman discovering how to be sexy on her own terms.

Sex can be casual, seduction never is.
Sex stops at orgasm, seduction never does.
Sex can come by instinct, seduction is hard work.

The only sex organ that really matters is the brain.

If it's going to be a relationship, you'd better find at least seven things besides sex to talk about. Build on that.

Pillow talk is important. No better place to learn hopes and dreams and pains and shames.

Nudity is not sex. Sex is not love.

If she doesn't challenge your thoughts, feelings, and assumptions, you might as well be masturbating.
If you don't do that to her, SHE might as well be masturbating.

All Women are Goddess and deserve to be Cherished, unless they prove otherwise.

I guess that's really it. What she looks like isn't as important as how she thinks and what she believes about herself. Sure there is something in the biology that finds the idea of a helpless female attractive. But I am more than my biology, at least I hope so.

Who wants a slave when you can have a partner?

But heck, Nat King Cole sang it better in Nature Boy.

There was a boy
A very strange enchanted boy
They say he wandered very far, very far
Over land and sea
A little shy and sad of eye
But very wise was he

And then one day
A magic day he passed my way
And while we spoke of many things
Fools and kings
This he said to me
"The greatest thing you’ll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return"

Bright & Dark Blessings, folks.

Posted: Fri - September 11, 2009 at 07:16 AM
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