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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

Move through the anger

This is a page from the third version of Technopagan Yearnings. There are some formatting differences. Originally published at www.neowayland.com/C1325529963/E20070128195542

And let your passion flow

Another one from my web wanderings. Also not a Pagan site.

An hour and a half is a nice long drive so I got to thinking about why I would feel so much better knowing that there was something very physical for me to do when I got home. If you think about drums, there's not just the fact that you get to move all of your limbs but also there's this great loud noise coming out of them. And the theory I settled upon is that for some reason I need to translate my emotions into some physical outlet. I think this is true of many people. When people celebrate, they may applaud, cheer, dance, etc... When they get angry, people may shout or become violent. Others may go for a run. In this very moment as I'm writing this, I just realized that my ex-husband, who frequently denied being angry when I'm pretty sure he was, would in those same situations retreat to his office to play guitar. Hmmm...

Anyway, my mind wandered next to what I learned as a kid, and that was really disturbing to think about. This may be the greatest disservice our parents ever did us kids. When I was angry as a kid, there was really no acceptable physical outlet for anger. No yelling, no door slamming. Fine, that's really not appropriate. But there was nothing else acceptable either, and certainly nothing suggested by my parents. I remember getting in trouble when I was angry and would go out the front door to go for a brisk walk. No crying allowed either. It was the most ridiculous thing now that I'm thinking back on it.

Kids were expected to stand there and be yelled at, be called names, and be hit when parents were angry. We, of course, were not supposed to express our anger that way, but neither were we told any acceptable way of expressing our anger. The only acceptable thing for us to do was to go to our room and do nothing- and that was allowed only when our parents were done dumping their anger on us.

The unspoken lesson was don't get angry, and if you do, then don't get rid of it. Well, let me tell you, that leads to a lot of fucked up kids turning into a lot of fucked up adults.

This is another synchronicity post. I was thinking about some of the comments from Sunfell's LiveJournal and I ran across this post. And that got me to thinking about anger management in terms of my own studies on passion and orgone flow.

This makes a lot of sense.

Posted: Sun - January 28, 2007 at 07:55 PM

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